This is the 2nd A.M, so if you haven’t read the first one you should have!
When I last wrote last, did I tell you that Dan’s famous girlfriend, Lyn was due to come up on a visit? Well, she arrived 2 weeks ago & stayed till last Mon. – not with us! We were very uninterested in the whole thing, but finally our good nature got the better of us & we told Dan we’d give a “Tea” for them on the 1st Sunday & he could invite some of the Lab. to meet her. I told him 6 (with us 4 making 10 + the children) and he invited 7 but otherwise it was arranged smoothly!
On the Sat. Lindy & I went down town in the morning – “we girls again”! Did I tell you that she keeps saying “We girls went to a Bazaar & the boys stayed at home”?! We went in the streetcar & had “juice” at the Honeydew & did a little shopping in Woolworth’s & had a fine time. We got Lindy a little book (The Three Pigs) & a little Santa Claus candle & a little squeaking duck for Charlie & she insisted on carrying them all herself & was very important!
Anyway after we got home & fed the children & had lunch & had a little rest it was about 3 & I thought I would begin my baking for the tea next day, when who should walk in but dear Dan & the girl! They sat & sat until I had to give them tea & then stayed until after 6- I had to go & feed the children & even then they hung around. Consequently our dinner was late & then I had to begin the baking & I was clearing away at 11 p.m. I was mad! And the girl! She is tall & skinny & bends in the middle; has blonde hair & very thick lensed glasses; a big nose & no chin or forehead – & Dan talks of her as a gorgeous blonde! Ugh! Also she is completely dumb! Cec & I broke our necks to make conversation & they sat on the sofa & muttered at each other – such remarks as “This is married life – think you can stand it?” – from Dan – so rude – but we think they are a pair. Most American girls, with or without looks, have personality, but she is just a nonentity. The tea on Sunday was fun – Phyl & Alex were there, Boris, Chris & Rudolph & a new English fellow, Dr. Calaman & his wife (Swiss). I had hot cheese scones, sandwiches, shortbread & Pecan Kisses & they all ate lots & enjoyed it. Lindy & Charlie were sweet – Lindy in the pretty white dress Irene sent (just fits now) & Charlie in blue cord. overalls (Margie gave him) & a white shirt- Linda very shy, but Charlie beaming at everyone. Dan began by trying to act the Big Host to everyone, but Cec & I quelled him!
The same evening as our Tea, poor Cy & Margie had such a time. Cy has been doing quite a lot of woodworking lately & got a power saw. He is making beds for the boys amongst other things & on the Sunday evening just went down to make a little bar to keep Peter off the stairs & had such a bad accident. Cut off part of his ring finger on his left hand, part of his little finger & cut the other fingers. They had to rush him to the hospital with a tourniquet on & have an immediate operation. He was in hospital 4 days & is at home now with his hand in a cast. They have had such a bad time lately, we felt so sorry for them – a little while ago they had a polio scare with Tommy but fortunately it was O.K.
Last Fri. we had Pete & Lu for dinner (8 o’clock) I had an Italian meal (+ your red- checked tablecloth & candles) with Mazotti (noodles, pork, mushrooms etc.), salad, cheese rolls, then Zabaglione – (beaten eggs with wine & sugar!) and Marsala wine to drink- yummy! It was a big success! Tomorrow Boris & Chris are coming to dinner – roast pork! Last Sat. we went to Alex & Phyl’s to play bridge & this Sat. to Jim & Lee’s- Claire sits for us.
Must stop & take my cakes out of the oven – they look gorgeous!
xxxs & hugs from your babies- as Lindy would say “I want a big kiss”! With lots of love from us all – Cyn.
I didn’t write last week because I seem to spend so many evenings packing up & sending off parcels & as a matter of fact I just sent the last 2 today! Last Thurs. was supposed to be the last day & I got all of them away by then except Anne’s & my Father’s. The latter has always was difficult & I ended in sending small tins of chicken, salmon & sausage; cheese; grey woollen gloves; 2 packs patience cards & a crossword puzzle book. I have some mints etc. still & thought in a week or so I might send them with a tiny Christmas cake, as he doesn’t like to get too much at one time. My Christmas cakes, by the way are in the oven now! I have had the things for about 2 weeks, but to get such a major operation over with the 2 children around is something, but Claire was here today so I got everything prepared & mostly done this afternoon & then finished them & put them in the oven after dinner. I got 3 square cake tins (big, middle, little) & it filled them all. This year I am making what they call over here a “White Fruit Cake”. Lee made one last year & it was delicious, so I thought it would be a change- it has sultanas, almonds, red & green cherries & pineapple in (some recipes have peel) & Lee’s was so moist & yummy – hope mine are too! Would you like the recipe? Thank you so much for the Mincemeat recipe – I shall make that next week — will make the whole quantity & may give a few jars around.
Talking of Anne’s parcel – it was late because I was sending Janita a tiny “doll in pram” like I gave Lindy for her birthday & I made a mattress & pillow & coverlet for it. Anyway, I had a letter from her yesterday & they have a son – Christopher Jan – born on the 28th & weighing 9 lbs. 7 1/4 ozs.. She apparently had a very quick time as she went shopping in the afternoon- went home, had tea then went to the hospital & had the baby at 7:40 in time for supper! Was writing next day full of fun! She actually mentions Tadek in this letter, so I was pleased!
I have 2 nice letters to thank you for- written on 16th & 23rd Nov.- but I’m not going to answer them this time as I have quite a few bits of gossip to tell you & will have to spread onto a second A.M. as it is! Before I go onto those tho’ I want to tell you about your parcel – I do hope it won’t be late for Christmas, but the difference between sending direct or via N. Y. (quicker was nearly $1.00, so I sent in direct & hope! I sent 2 old shirts & 2 old dresses & don’t give them away without looking carefully in all the pockets as there are 3 presents for a good girl there! Amongst your presents are 2 “multiple” presents – you’ll know what I mean when you see them– & I thought you could keep what you wanted from both & then probably could use the rest as small gifts sometime. Very mysterious!! I sent A. Moo 2 packs of cards, but was very disappointed as I chose such pretty ones in the catalogue & then they sent such dull looking things & there was no time to return them – they are so annoying over their “substitutes”.
I had such a silly sort of cold over the weekend – all in my throat & voice. It has gone into my head a bit now but is much better, but unfortunately Lindy started it yesterday & was quite miserable & this evening Charlie sicked up a little & was quite a bit fretty, so it looks as if it will do the rounds- however it doesn’t seem to be bad. We had snow on Tues. & Lindy was thrilled but it all melted & is much milder now.
Thank you so much for your air letter of the 12th Nov.- it came on Tues. 17th, so I don’t think it was any quicker than usual. I was so glad to hear of Uncle Fred’s surprise trip to New York – I hope he has a grand time & lots of fun – as you say, he certainly deserves it after all his generosity. I suppose that he would stay in a hotel in N.Y. & go out to visit A. Ettie & the girls. If the weather there is anything like here he will have a pleasant surprise – it is perfectly lovely- mild & balmy & sunny – temps. up to 60° in the day & everyone strolling along as if it were April or May! Hope it lasts, but somehow doubt it!
How very excellent & forewarned & forearmed of you to have your Christmas parcels all ready to send by him! I am afraid that mine aren’t doing so well – I was thinking of the dates to send to England & forgot it would probably take longer to you. However, I have got all the things this week & intend to pack & send them this weekend – I thought Lindy & I might go to town on Sat. a.m. for a little snoop around before I finally packed them- otherwise everything is catalogue bought! Lindy & Margy & I went to the Church Bazaar last Sat. – Lindy talks about it now & says “We girls went to the Bazaar”!! Actually Lindy & I were going alone but I told Margy & she asked could she come along, so we had an outing! I made 4 pies (2 orange meringue, 2 coconut cream) & 2 doz. small butterfly cakes – quite a scramble! – & took them in about 2. Actually none of them saw the light of day as Margy asked for 1 pie & other stall holders came & bought the others 2 mins. after I arrived! I was shattered at the price (50¢ each!). We went later, at about 4.0 & looked around but it was really not very alluring! Sat. was the 2nd day of course, so I suppose the best was gone – I got Lindy candy (fudge) which she clutched the whole time, so that when she got home it was one sticky lump! Also a fish at the Fish Pond (I had to do it though!) & she got a little wee plastic train & then at the sewing stall a new apron for myself & 2 potholders! We had quite a nice little tea though & Linda sat up & drank a cup of tea & ate a sandwich in a very ladylike way! Margie is so envious of my daughter – poor Margie!
We had Jim & Lee over for bridge that evening so I was busy, but managed all right in the end. On the Fri. evening we went to Margie & Cy’s & they had Alec & Phyl & another couple Don & Janet to make 2 tables of bridge. We have been talking of having a little social bridge club among ourselves, but Alex & Phyl feel they are in too many things as it is, so nothing may come of it.
I was terribly sorry to hear the sad news of Jane’s father- poor girl, she will feel so miserable, especially without Bill & the boys to help her at this time. It will be such lonely waiting knowing that her father will be gone so soon. I expect that she is glad that she flew to be able to be with him as much as possible, but poor Janie – such a tragic ending to her happy plans for their leave- she has had such a lot of sadness amongst her family.
Jane and Bill Otway in happier times.
It is Charlie’s 11 month birthday today – he is such a cute little fellow – so loving & cuddly & “smoochy”! He can totter along holding by only 1 hand now & says “Daddad” & “Ma ma ma” etc. The great event this weekend is that dear Dan’s girl is coming up! Cec & I finally got browbeaten by our consciences into feeling we had to do something, so have told him we’ll have a tea party on Sun. & have a few from the Lab. to meet her – probably about 10 of us altogether. Will report anon on the results & impressions!! xxxxs from Lindy & Charlie – Lots & lots of love from us all – Cyn.
Map showing the building expansion in the Beechwood area.
31 Acacia Avenue.
Ottawa. Ont.
11th Nov. 1953.
Dearest Mummy,
Today has been a holiday, but Cec went into work this afternoon so it really has seem just like any other day. This morning he put storm windows up & the forecast for tomorrow is “snow flurries” so winter really seems to be upon us – horrid! The storm windows have been really hanging fire for about a month, but Cec has a funny rib which seems to crack every once in a while (in the Navy & at Cambridge) & one day when he was fixing my clothesline he did it again, & it was quite a while getting better, so the storm windows got left – fortunately the weather hasn’t been very cold, so it was all right.
Thank you so much for your letter of Nov. 1st- it arrived last Friday (6th) & in it you ask if the letters come regularly & if so when. They do usually come on Friday-just occasionally on Sat. – & believe me, I owe so many letters that Friday is just about the only day I trot to the mailbox with eagerness! You know the mail comes about 3:30, so both of my little companions are up & around & although I sit down & read your letter right away, I usually have to re-read it after they go to bed before I can take it all in! Linda thoroughly objects if I sit down & read or just sit! I can sit & sew, but if I sit down to rest my weary bones up she trots with a book to “read a story”! When I finally persuade her to go & play with something as I am reading Grannie’s letter she obligingly withdraws a few feet & keeps up a flow of conversation & questions while Charlie grabs at the paper & says “Ba-bab-bab” & likewise! I do enjoy your letters so much though – both news of you & all the relatives & even people I don’t know! – also chit-chat & questions about the babies etc. I am never bored – far from it – & I am just sorry that I haven’t told you more often how much I look forward to them, but each letter I write seems to be scribbled in such a hurry. I think back to the “old days” when I used to ensconce myself on the sofa on a Sunday afternoon & write 8 or 9 letters in a go & although I sometimes wish I could have an uninterrupted day at letter-writing, I still wouldn’t change! When the children are asleep in the afternoon I very often finish off washing or ironing & get dinner ready so that when they wake up I can take them out, then in the evening by the time they’re in bed & dishes washed I really collapse & it takes such willpower to get my writing things out! To you, I can usually babble on effortlessly, but to other people I just sit & try to write & gaze blankly & get nowhere!
Effortless babble- 7 pages both sides!
I felt so sorry for the poor old men with no shirts in your letter & will certainly send an assortment of Cec’s. All his are just about on their beam ends at the moment & so we have invested in 2 nylon ones so I won’t have to iron so much! They have come down in price now & one Cec got a fellow to get in the U.S. for him & the other we got “on sale” from Simpson’s Christmas catalogue & they weren’t much more than a good cotton shirt. They have semi–stiff fused collars and cuffs just like ordinary shirts & you just shoosh them in suds, rinse & hang up dripping & they dry looking smooth & elegant, so I am delighted! Both Cec & I are hard up for clothes as always & don’t plan to buy any just yet! I was laughing at you & Auntie Moo saying “Poor little Linda” when I spent all her family allowance on kitchen things – she, without a doubt is the best dressed Costain! In the last year she has had at least 6 dresses I can think of – 4 prs. trousers- 1 jacket – 1 cardigan – 2 blouses – 1 snowsuit – 1 man-tailored (!) Harris Tweed outfit- innumerable pyjamas, socks, T-shirts etc. etc.! while poor Ma has had 1 cotton dress, 2 cheap skirts & 1 jumper. Poor Papa has done even worse, but little old Charlie boy does pretty well on hand-me-downs from his affluent sister! Actually, she and Charlie grow so they have to have things & believe me, except for her pale blue tweed outfit she is still not the “best dressed child on the block”!!! Charlie is wearing your dear little overalls all the time now & looks so cute in them – he also wears lots of things that Lindy used to wear when you were here too – the little yellow & red & white overalls you gave her & the little pale blue T-shirt- has just about grown out of Bren’s little blue knitted woollen suit & has grown out of the little red slippers you gave Lindy for her 1st birthday! He is wearing Una’s Viyella rompers which are still nice & big for him & is really quite well set up with things Linda is out of, but I can see it won’t last too long as he is growing quickly & catching up. His head is past her shoulder now, & although she is growing too, she is quite small boned & dainty & is even beginning to lose her fat little baby pot belly!! Lindy is wearing the overalls made out of your dress & is very proud of them (I shortened legs & straps a bit) & keeps saying “Grannie made these for my” so I don’t disillusion her. Just lately she has got all muddled up over “me-my-I” although she had them quite right before, but I expect she will get over it soon. Did I tell you that she had made up a poem?!! Just like her Mother but with more sense than “Wriggle my tail”! She likes to get under the dining room table & calls it her little house & she said one day “I’m in my little house. I’m a little mouse.” She can now clean her teeth, take off and put on her shoes & socks, put on panties but not much success getting them down over her fat little bottom! – & get up & down stairs standing up & just by herself – grown-up style!
I have meant to tell you that the yellow sheets you sent for the crib fit Lindy’s new bed beautifully & look very nice on it. She has Til & Lois’s quilt & a flannelette blanket on top of her & stays under the covers quite well now. Even old Charlie is getting a bit better at it & he used to crawl out no matter what we did. They are so sweet in bed together- if Charlie wakes & cries, or cries when we put them to bed you hear Linda talking to him & sometimes singing until he stops & when they wake up they laugh & jump & giggle & have such fun. Dan babysat for us once a while ago & I told him not to bother going in if Charlie woke & cried as he often does & then goes to sleep again. Anyway, he did wake & Dan had to bustle in, whereupon Lindy woke up & looked at him & said “Go away, Dan, go away. It’s all right, Charlie- go to sleep fella!” & peace was restored! To go back to Lindy’s clothes- the little green snowsuit she had last year is handed on to Charlie now, so we ordered another cheap one from Eaton’s so that she could keep her tweed outfit for best. It is quilted nylon, just about the same shape as last year’s & with white fur around the hood & I ordered a size 3 in blue. When it came, they had sent green as the blue is out of stock & we found that it just fit Lindy & no more so we decided we’d have to get a bigger size. However, the green looked nice & we thought that after all it would look better to have her & Charlie “matching”, so we returned it & ordered size 4 in green. When it came it was red! It didn’t seem much bigger & with the white fur she just looked just like a miniature Santa Claus! Also you know, Lindy doesn’t have much colour & the red seems to make her paler & mousier. So back it went again! Today at last we got the green, size 4 & it looks very nice & she is tickled with it – it is big for her, but so much the better.
About my clothes – as I said, I don’t plan to get much & really now the children are small I go out so little that I feel there is no absolute necessity. Thank you so much for your offer to finance a coat or a dress for me from Harrod’s but I’m not going to take you up on it. I still have about £80 in England & could easily get myself some things sent if I wanted, but as you know I never could get clothes to fit me in England & I feel it would be just hopeless to have to try alterations myself. A coat or suit would be impossible & even a dress, when I think of all the taking in on the shoulders & lifting waistline etc. etc. which I always used to have to get done, I just shudder. Harrod’s send me their little catalogue once in a while but although their things look nice it seems far too much of a risk & then there is always duty to pay this end & no chance of returning the things if you don’t like them. I would far rather wait & maybe you could make me or have made for me a couple of cotton dresses in the summer – it shouldn’t be too difficult because I must be pretty much the same size as you now – bustier though!! I hope to get a new dress around Christmas or after, and as for the coat, my red one is still not too bad after cleaning & it’s nice & warm so I don’t care – after all, the only places I go to during the day are to the Grocery store or Mr. Dube’s post office, so I don’t need to look very elegant! In the evening if we go to people’s houses we always go in the car & so I don’t feel I really need a new coat.
One reason we want to be careful & save what money we can is that our lease expires in May & Mr. Labelle has given us our 6 months notice to leave. He wants the house for his parents (so he says) & so can tell us to move, but that means we must find another place, then have all the expense of another move. In some ways I don’t mind leaving here – it is nowhere near as nice as when you were here when we first came – with all this building business at the back & nowhere for the children to play & then having our landlord right next-door acting quite possessively, a lot of the advantages have gone. However, it seems very doubtful whether we will be lucky enough to find another house at such a low rent & although I hate the idea of an apartment after having had a house I would rather do that than pay $110 a month for a house or more. Lee & Jim & Lu & Pete pay $100 a month for their apartments & their rent is to go up to $110 but that includes fuel etc. of course, whereas we pay $200 over the winter for coke. It is quite a problem, But we will have to see what comes up- whatever we get, we will have to buy a stove & a refrigerator so that is something else we must say for. Mr. L is not keeping us to the lease but says we may leave anytime we get a place, so after Christmas we will begin looking. Whether Dan gets married in the New Year or not (heard nothing more of it) we will tell him to find somewhere else as we may move at any time. We certainly wouldn’t dream of having both of them here no matter what happened & believe me, we have at least managed to get him to see that he hasn’t the run of the house & we see very little of him, thank goodness. I don’t feel like extending any hospitality to the girl even if anything does come of the affair – as far as he is concerned I am just a landlady.
I was most insulted to see you say in your letter that I “seem to lose weight easily”! If you only knew the will power & self-control it takes to be perpetually hungrey for even a week! I just kept on my extreme diet for 2 weeks (with breaks for eating out!) but since then have been very careful, no cakes, no cookies, no desserts except fruit (mainly grapefruit with no sugar!) only 1 slice of bread a day, 2 cups of tea a day with 1/2 sp. sugar (1 for breakfast, one for tea) coffee with saccharine after dinner, no potatoes or candy & still I can’t get below 123 lbs. I will have to go on my eggs & grapefruit diet again & try & get down to 115, but it’s cruel! On Tuesday evening Cec & Cy went to the movies to see “The Malta Story” & I just yearned for something sweet, so I was wicked & made a small plateful of chocolate fudge & had an orgy! It was the first candy I’ve had for about 2 months & it was lovely! Of course I diet hard when we are on our own but when we go out or have visitors in I relax & it’s lovely! On Friday & Sat. it is St. Margaret’s Church Bazaar & I got a card about it last week. I told Cec I might take Lindy on Sat. as there is a Fish Pond etc. & also Tea & I thought she would have fun & he thought it was a good idea & on reading the card about the stalls he asked was I taking anything to the Home Baking Stall. I hadn’t thought of it, but called up Mrs. Stewart & she gave me the name & phone no. of the lady in charge of it & I called her. She was just delighted at my offer, poor woman, as only 5 out of 16 people on her list had volunteered & she was doing so disappointed etc. so I said I would make something & take it in on Sat. I thought I would make some pies (coconut, orange etc.) on cardboard plates & maybe some little butterfly cakes in paper cases – I can make the icing different colours & they will look pretty.
You were asking about Claire in your letter- she is about my age I should imagine – half Indian & half Scottish! Her marriage etc. is quite mysterious – in fact Phyl wonders if she ever was married! – but she told me once that she got her divorce 3 years ago & I have gathered that the man deserted her before even the baby was born. Anyway, the little boy, Jerry, was taken care of by the Children’s Aid & in foster homes till Claire could take care of him & now she has him with her & takes him to a nursery school on her way to work every morning & picks him up in the evening. She is just devoted to him & tries so hard to get everything he needs & take care of him well & I feel so sorry for her having such a responsibility- he is a nice little fellow- 4 years old – very dark like her. She has a room in a rooming house, which from her account sounds a bit odd- drunken landlord etc. – but she talks of cleaning her room & making Jerry’s clothes & obviously does her very best. I give her most of my old clothes & various things as I feel she does need all the help she can get. The operation she had was to have all her female organs removed & the treatment she needs or the other op. I told you she may have to have is because it hasn’t healed- reason – going back to work too soon. Poor woman – I do feel so sorry for her. She is very good with children & I like to have her to babysit, but hesitate to ask her too much as it means dragging little Jerry too. I tell Lindy sometimes now that we are going out & Claire & Jerry are sitting downstairs till we come back & she doesn’t seem to worry at all.
You ask how I manage with them both outside now & really we do very well – Lindy is such a good obedient little thing & walks along “Helping Mummy push Charlie” nearly all the time. Occasionally she will say “Lindy running” & trot along ahead for a little way, but she never goes off a curb by herself & always holds my hand crossing the road. I thought I had Charlie all organized on a schedule to fit with Linda – he didn’t seem to want to sleep in the morning & since he had his colds I hadn’t been able to put him out in the pram especially as it is chilly now, so I just kept him up all morning & then gave him & Lindy lunch at 12 & put them to bed till 3. However I found Charlie wasn’t sleeping soundly & was very crotchety when he got up, so the last few days I’ve put him to bed at 10:30 & he has slept soundly till about 12:30 when Linda goes up. Then I feed him & he plays until 3 when she gets up & he goes to bed again until about 4! This way I have one or the other of them up all the time & also by the time Charlie gets up it is too late to go out these winter days, but certainly Charlie seems much happier & they are both better tempered on their own! I’ll just let it go on for a while & see what Charlie does. They are both eating very well just now – Linda is still very funny in some of her fancies but she eats bacon, eggs, cornflakes, meat (sometimes- loves things like wieners, bologna, sausages etc.) potatoes, milk, bread, crackers, bananas, apples, oranges, grapes & still baby applesauce, but will eat no puddings, desserts etc. and very few veg. You asked about why I didn’t make sponge cakes the other day – because my daughter won’t eat it! The only cake she will eat is chocolate cake & she turns up her nose at all homemade cookies & still eats her old Sunwheats!
Charlie has cereal + fruit + milk for breakfast – meat + veg + custard + milk for dinner – cereal + fruit + milk for supper. He loves banana which he has once a day with his cereal & is quite annoyed when he tastes and & finds it’s apple or peaches! He is beginning to eat cookies & crusts with many chokes & splutters, but is awful at drinking out of a cup. I give him juice every afternoon & we always have chokes & spills! Part of the trouble is that he won’t even try to hold a glass or cup himself- he won’t even hold his bottle – lies & holds his ears & lets you hold the bottle!
I must begin & stop now as it is Thursday & after 11 p.m. Tomorrow night we are going to Margie & Cy’s for bridge & on Sat. Lee & Jim are coming here. Last Sat. we had Boris & girlfriend Joan – we still don’t really approve of her – Boris is so nice – friendly & one of those people you feel as if you’ve known for years – she is pleasant but doesn’t seem to have any warmth or personality – strange. No engagement yet, but they seem to be going steadily!
Linda sends big XXXs – every morning while eating egg she has a spoonful for Grannie- one for A. Muriel- one for Grannie’s pussy & we are now beginning to have one for Doris! Big wet loving kisses from Charlie & lots of love from us all-
I thought I would write a long letter to you this week, but what was one thing & another the time has gone & I think I had better write one of these to make sure I get it finished & posted. Thank you so much for your long letter dated 26th Oct.- got it a week ago today – I did enjoy it. I have a feeling that quite a few of the questions you ask I have already answered in a sea letter, but anyway I am going to begin by dashing through & answering them quickly!
2.) Had a short note from Til & Lois- no new news.
3.) Sent a letter of Anne’s to you by sea with news of Cambridge people + Jessie F.!
4.) Jessie Aldridge going to have another baby in New Year.
5.) Anne having a new baby this month.
6.) Joan & Ray had a daughter (ha!ha!) on 17th Oct. – Catherine Joan.
7.) Claire comes regularly now & is v. good, also baby sits sometimes. Poor woman has had to go back to Hosp. for more treatment though & may have to have another op.
8.) No recent news of Lea & Wendy – she & Darryl still in Sask. – he in Italy- studying, not making money!
9.) Haven’t heard from my Father for 6 mths. or more. Have written occasionally & sent a snap of the children. Sent choc. peppermints a week or so ago & will send Christmas parcel.
That I think, is the news in a nutshell! I will answer your letter properly later, but those are the main things you ask. Before I forget, will you please send me your Anna Holmes recipe for Mincemeat with Grapes? You sent it to me at A.A. I know, but I don’t seem to have written it in my book & now I have my own mincing machine I plan to make it. Does it keep well or should I keep it in the frig? Thank you for your suggestion re. my sending your housecoat for birthday & something else now – I’ve been doing my Christmas shopping from Eaton’s & Simpson’s catalogues & as usual it mounts up. However, in this method I can look & look again & cut costs! There is a nice housecoat I want to get you, but it shall be your b. present & I shall send something else now. I think I will send a few dresses for Doris & tuck some things in & only declare things I can’t hide!
Most of Cyn’s recipes from her Domestic Science college days are neatly written, but here the Mincemeat recipe was obviously too close to the mincing machine!
The children had colds all last week & still have runny noses- Charlie at least. It has turned much colder so I have kept them in the house mostly & what a job! They were a bit fretty & miserable the first day or so, but not after that except the Charlie got fed up & bored with not going out. He hardly ever sleeps in the morning now – such a blight! At the moment if you saw him you’d have a fit! He has scraped the skin off his whole nose & it is covered with a huge dark brown scab! He looks as if he’d been in a great fight! Poor little fellow – I took him downstairs when I went to do the washing one day (Tues.) & put him in a large cardboard box in a corner. He loved it & was most amused & Lindy was playing with the water & everything was fine till he got a bit fed up just as I was finishing- stood up & hurled himself out onto the concrete floor on his face. What a mess! He scraped his nose, banged his forehead, & split his lip & of course howled & bled profusely! In about 5 mins. it was all over, but the damage + a runny nose looks most pathetic! I have a joke of Lindy’s to tell you- Mr. Shoesmith from work came to see Dan last Sat. for a minute & later in the day Lindy came running up to me very anxiously & asked “Where’s Mr. Toothpaste?”!! When Cec comes home now she tells him all the bits of news & yesterday she announced “Daddy – I spit – I spit in the basin upstairs!” (Cleaning teeth!) She is so funny & loves to “Talk to Mummy” – the talking being mostly “Where’s Grannie’s pussy?” “Where’s Tania?” “Where’s Baby Andy?” etc. etc.!! She has taken to calling me “Mums” which makes me giggle! She is very much my girl just now & Charlie is Daddy’s boy- he will fret & fuss from 5 on & when Cec comes home you never saw a happier baby!
Sent off the batteries early this week. Same as before but said $2.50!
21st Oct. 1953.
Dearest Mummy,
I feel so full of virtue I could bust! I am sure that my halo is glowing so brightly in the sky that everyone is remarking on the beautiful Northern Lights tonight!! Reasons being
1.) I have caught up with ALL my ironing- the first time for at least 6 months! All Cec’s old shirts, all Lindy’s outgrown clothes, any table linen I didn’t need – just got shoved into the basket during the summer. Since Carman left I have been ploughing away at it & finally today the beastly basket is empty. Even Cec’s old frayed shirts are hanging neatly in “your” cupboard – I shall send a few in a parcel of my old dresses for Doris sometime, so that you can have new dusters!
2.) I finished Lindy’s dressing gown atlast! You remember I made it when I hired the machine-oh, ages ago, but left the finishing off to do by hand. All summer it lay as I felt she really didn’t need it then, but now tonight I completely finished it & it looks cute!
3.) I have taken off 5 pounds since I last wrote & feel fine! Am now 125 & want to lose another 10 gradually. Actually, although it does take a lot of will power, I don’t mind it much & I am feeling so well & energetic! I am not keeping to the very strict diet but keeping it mostly to meat eggs & raw veg. with no sugar & very few starches, so perhaps that may be giving me energy or it is perhaps the weather which is gorgeous. I pram push the children every afternoon & feel it can’t possibly last much longer- Lindy has decided it’s fun to ride behind Charlie so she begs a ride in the pram part of the way & so I am a bit more mobile than when she is walking. We have had no furnace on for weeks & don’t even need a fire in the sitting room most nights.
We are being quite gay these past weeks. Two Sats. ago Mrs. Burrough invited us over, as Betty & Al were home. Al was speaking at a meeting here, so they took their summer holiday & of course Mrs. B was in her element. (She and Mr. B went to Sask. to see them in the spring too!) They had quite a nice party & we enjoyed ourselves- Cec says Betty is getting more like her Mother & Al is going to be henpecked! Then last Sat. was Pete & Lu’s 9th wedding anniversary & they invited us to dinner to celebrate. We took some flowers & had a lovely time – just the 4 of us but nice drinks & lovely food (forgot the diet!) & it was fun. Tomorrow Margie &. Cy have asked us & Pete & Lu to dinner (these are late dinners- 8:30ish) as we had them all last fall & the Forsyths had us all over too. Then on Sat. we are going over to Jim & Lee’s for bridge! I feel so giddy I don’t know where I am! It is lovely though as we seem to have been nowhere for so long & I was beginning to feel all work & no play. Claire babysits for us now quite a bit (brings her little boy & he sleeps on the sofa) & I feel so glad to leave the children with her. She is very good- comes regularly now (was here today- goody! goody!) & works so hard.
Margie & I went to the Movies last week – saw “The Moon is Blue” & laughed! Sent our husbands the next night as a reward!
xxxs from the babies & lots & lots of love from Cec & me – Cyn.
The coat! Taken 2 years later, so handing it down worked!
21st October
Dearest Mummy,
Here is a collection of odds & bobs to amuse you! The christening negatives you wanted; a couple of old letters from Anne so that you can catch up on her news; pieces of your grandchildren’s hair (Charlie is the blonde of course!); and a picture of Linda’s new English outfit & a pattern! I think I told you that we had ordered her an outfit from Harrods- man tailored by Chilprufe, my dear! – & this is the little picture from the catalogue & a piece of the tweed (Harris) pattern they sent me.
It arrived last week with $8.00 duty to pay, but we are just delighted. It is big, which is a good thing, but I can shorten the coat & sleeves & the braces for the leggings & then it will be fine & Lindy, as well as Cec & I, is thrilled! The colour is just perfect for her & makes her eyes look so big & blue – the coat has a little pale blue velvet stitched collar & I asked for a beret too for when it’s handed down to Charlie & it is of pale blue velvet too & looks so sweet. The coat will button both boy & girl–wise, so will be fine for both. It is much nicer than anything we could possibly afford here – that type of thing are from $25.00-$40.00! – & it is such a fun to get Lindy a really snazz outfit!! She is by far the best dressed member of the family of course! Actually I dress her up very little, as she is just playing around outside most of the time & gets so dirty. I don’t even put her dresses on much just now because the trousers are warmer & also she skins her knees so easily if she has a skirt on.
We have been having the most beautiful Indian summer with temps. of 70 & more- very like that lovely spell just after we arrived here & we used to push baby Linda along by the river. Lindy & Richard play outside very nicely a lot of the time now, but still if there are any trucks or tractors or noise Lindy comes tearing in the house. The poor little things play at the back just on the dirt & gravel & it is such a shame when you think of how it used to be. The sandbox got to be mostly dirt & Mr. Labelle took it away, so they ride their tricycles & pull their waggons & Richard has a wheelbarrow & a little pram which Lindy loves! They have two little nail kegs from the builders & ride on them like horses! There is really no nice green place for them to play though & it is such a pity, but they don’t really seem to mind.
I meant to tell you that Lindy is still very fond of her books. She loves to be read to & in her favourites she can supply practically any word if you just stop & wait a minute. She also loves the A.A. Milne “When We Were Very Young” & her favourite poem in that is about the king who did like a little bit of butter on his bread! She is very funny about the nursery rhymes – she can add all the endings of the lines if she likes & really knows them all, but sometimes decides to be original! For example: – (Lindy = _______ words)
Old Mother Hubbard
Went to the cupboard
To get her poor doggie a bone.
When she got there
The cupboard was – shut! Also:-
Jack & Jill
Went up the hill
To fetch a pail of water.
Jack fell down
And Nancy fell down too!
She also made up a poem! Like me & “wriggle my tail” but her’s made sense! She crawled under the dining room table one day & I told her she was in a little house. A few days later she went in & said: –
I’m in a little house.
I’m a little mouse.!!
You asked me in one of your letters if I’d heard from my Father recently. I’ve only had one letter this year after Charlie was born. I haven’t written much, but I’ve sent snaps of both children & one or two small parcels- he said he didn’t want big ones. I sent off chocolate mints today & will send another in a week or two.
Jessie and Norman Aldridge
What do you think? I got a letter from Jesse Aldridge last week & she & Norman are having a baby in the New Year! She says Zinnia & Sandra are thrilled & so are she & Norman now they have got over the shock! Unfortunately Norman has been very ill- a breakdown from overwork after colds & bronchitis etc. He was in hospital & is now in a convalescent home in Kent & doing very well but won’t be home till after Christmas, so J. must have her hands full.
I must stop now as it is bedtime. Cec is at the Lab. & gave me strict instructions to go to bed early so I’d better not be caught!
Love to A. Muriel & lots & lots for you from us all-
In the two previous letters, Cyn made references to her mother’s questions and promised to answer them soon. In her first October letter, she had said she was writing the long letter but wouldn’t be finishing it until later. Although that letter exists, it is lacking the first two pages, so the first questions and answers are unknown, as is the date it was started. It finishes just after Thanksgiving, so was probably mailed in the middle of the month and Carol would have no reason to complain that her queries had not been attended to!
A word about Cyn ordering things from Harrod’s in England- she had a bit of money there that she couldn’t?/hadn’t? transferred to Canada, so she used it for things like children’s clothes and the gift to Ruth (who had been her bridesmaid) for her baby. It solved the problem of her English friends having to pay duty on presents she sent them, but she didn’t really know what she had sent, and she had to pay duty on the things she’d ordered for herself in Canada.
The letter starts on page 3 with Cyn addressing Question 3:
3. Do I ever hear from:
A. Til & Lois – haven’t heard in an age- they must be about the only people I don’t owe a letter to! Will write next month for Til’s birthday.
B. Gunborg- was over in England & Sweden this summer for six weeks- flew. The girls went to summer camp. Haven’t heard from her since she came back, but she sent Lindy a darling baby doll for her birthday. It was waiting when we got back from our holiday & when Lindy opened the parcel & saw it, she just lifted it out & cuddled it up & said “My baby!” in such a tender little voice! It has a little bottle & takes water out of it & wets its diaper! Lindy thinks it more fun to suck the water out of the wee bottle herself, most of the time!
C. Connie & Leonard – haven’t heard for a long time, cards only exchanged at Linda & Christophers’ birthdays! Leonard is working at Harwell (British Atomic Energy place) & they live near there – have no idea if it’s a house, flat or what.
4. Dan!
He is behaving all right but is still as big a bore and as stupid as ever! He went down to Columbus, Ohio for his holiday (1st 2 weeks in Aug.) to see some American girl he came over on the boat with & ofcourse came back engaged! Unofficially as he has no money to buy a ring! Of course his ego is sky high & he blabs to any & everyone who will listen, but he gets no encouragement- from us, or anyone else as far as I can gather! He talks of her coming up & their getting married in the New Year- always with a pleased smirk & phrasing it as if the girl was just pining away for him! None of us can possibly imagine what she can be like because from what Cec knows at the Lab. & the other girls I talk to, everyone is as bored with him as we are & none of us can think how anyone could spend a whole day with him let alone a lifetime! However – if it comes to anything I’ll let you know! Phyl thinks she must be young & silly- I think she must be older & at her last chance (à la Jessie F.!) One thing I will say for Dan – he is really very fond of children & very good with them. He is awfully patient & kind with Lindy & on Sat. morning will read her stories & play horse-back with her & so on for ages.
5. The house plants.
Well ——————- ————————- ————————— they have been out all summer & while the begonias have flourished the others look pretty sick! The African violet Mrs. B gave me in hospital died altogether- I think it was too hot for it– & I think the philodendron dried out while we were away! Oh well – we can’t all have green thumbs!
6. I will try to remember to send the christening films, if this letter is too heavy we will send them by sea.
7. The high chair for Ruth’s baby-
Lalapalooza = Very, very, very elegant! Ruth & Amy both rave over it, so it must be something – especially as Ruth says it is the nicest present Richard has had. I asked them to send one of the kind that turns into a low table when the child gets older, & it is painted cream & that is all I know.
Did I tell you that I got Harrods to send me some things?
3 pairs Viyella rompers – 1 blue & white for Charlie; 1 red & white for Lu’s baby; 1 yellow for Margie’s baby. 1 green flowered Viyella dress & pants for Linda. 2 blue wool buttoned up cardigans for C. & L.
I had to pay duty of course, but they are all very nice & I feel it is worthwhile as the equivalent here is ‘way beyond us. I am also getting them to send a winter outfit for Lindy- they sent a mag. of illustrations & I chose one in blue (pastel) tweed – coat, leggings, bonnet & beret. The latter is for Charlie when it’s handed down to him! I will get a cheap snowsuit for Lindy to play in & then she’ll wear the other for “best”! I have just got her 2 prs. of corduroy “jeans”, blue & green, to wear out to play with her little windbreaker jacket just now. She has a red beret & red mitts with snowmen on! Also some new brown shoes – proper little Oxfords – very grown-up!
I forgot to tell you that when we were away I finally got Lindy’s “Family Allowance”- back pay from Jan. 1st- so I got $30.00 altogether! I was so tickled & had such a spree with my Eaton’s & Simpson’s catalogues! I got a new garbage can for the kitchen (!!) (red & white); a combined bread & cake box (red & white); a mincing machine; a square cake tin; a weighted floor polisher; a brown skirt for me (cheap to wear around the house);3 prs. nylons for me!! Wasn’t that nice?
Talking of catalogues you asked me once about sending Eaton’s to you – well, they don’t mail them – you have to collect them & they are so enormous they would weigh a ton. Also, the one I get I use until the next arrives & then the 1st is out of date. However I am sending their summer sale catalogue just to show you a few things we got for Lindy etc. & you can tell me if it is any use. I am also sending another dress pattern- you asked me to send some once & I got these. Actually I was thinking if this one was any good & either you or one of the cousins tried it, I could use a sundress (for my birthday) next summer! I take about a 14 now, but a little shorter than yours. I put on weight during the summer cooking for Carman (130) so I am dieting now & will try to get down to about 115 again.
You also asked me once about the authoress whose books I used to get you – she is D.E. Stevenson. You also took told me about Frank Dobie’s “A Texan in England” – I read it in Cambridge long ago – before I even went to Toledo – & enjoyed it. I hope “Maclean’s” continues to come & doesn’t annoy you as much as it did pre-Coronation! Carman got Cec “The Saturday Evening Post” for his birthday, so it comes every week now without Cec having to go to the corner for it.
This is now Tues. 13th Oct. & I have been writing this letter off & on for weeks. This past Monday was Thanksgiving Day & Cec had a holiday & I planned to write & do so much & in the end did nothing. Poor little Charlie got such a bad cold last week, all in his chest & nose & such a runny little wet bundle you never saw. He felt miserable to begin with, but by the weekend he was feeling quite cheery tho’ drippy & today seems much better – however Sat. & Sun. I felt sore-throaty & heavy headed & on Sun. Cec got it & yesterday & today has been sneezing & coughing & having such a time. So far Linda has been o.k. & we all seem to be on the mend, thank goodness.
We had roast chicken etc. & then mince pie for Thanksgiving Dinner – Lindy ate a bit of chicken & then plate after plate of plain mashed potatoes! Her diet is extraordinary just now – one night she ate nothing but green beans for dinner- another she’ll eat just meat- over about 1 week she gets a balanced diet!! After the very hot weather she ate very poorly for a week or more- would have nothing but milk & mushroomsoup! She is so funny – one night she was fussing & wouldn’t have gravy on her potatoes but had it separately & ate it with great enthusiasm then turned to Cec & said in a conversational voice “This is lovely!” She was telling Charlie today “I’m going to school, Charlie” & told me one day that she was going to get married. She has discovered “mother” & “father” instead of Mummy & Daddy & also Cec & Cyn & uses them with a little grin! When Cec was busy one day she turned to me & asked “What is that gentleman doing?”!! She is used to seeing the picture of you holding an orange on a tree- (that P.V. took, I think) I have it in my scrapbook which she loves looking at (Yes – hold your breath- I am nearly up to date with my scrapbook – the one you gave me is full) & the other day I got out the framed picture of you now that we have 2 chests of drawers in our room again. Linda looked at it & I said “Who is that Lindy?“ & she said “That’s my Grannie” – then “Grannie not got an orange there?”! We’ve been talking about trains etc. since Carman went home & now she says “When I’m a bigger girl I’m going on a big train & a big ship to see my Grannie”. I try to tell her about your pussy etc. but it is most difficult.
Me:- Grannie says her pussy jumped up on her bed & bit right through the handle of her bag.
Linda: – Which bed?
Me: – Grannie’s bed.
Lindy: – Which bag?
Me: – Granny’s hand bag.
Lindy: – Where’s pussy’s mummy? Etc. Etc.!
She has a definite mind of her own & is so funny- sometimes she is playing with her lunch or sitting on the potty & enjoying herself & I try & hurry her up & she will say “Mummy go away. I not need you here”!
Charlie has just learned to wave his hand “bye-bye” – he will be 10 mths. next week, so is still not quite as old as Linda when you left. It is very difficult to compare them – in some ways they are so different. For instance he plays with toys very well – turns the wheels of Lindy’s wagon or tricycle if he gets the chance- tries to pull things etc. – but of course there are lots of toys around now & when Lindy was tiny there weren’t. On the other hand Charlie doesn’t bother so much with books & pictures etc. but with Lindy there were 3 of us to show her things, whereas I don’t think Cec or I have ever gone through a mag. or book with him – partly time & partly he is so active & hates to sit still. Remember how frantic it was to get Lindy’s diapers changed? Well – he is just as bad!
Cec says the water is boiling, so I must go & have my bath!
I am so frustrated I could spit! I got all my diapers washed nice & early this morning & also the big spread from our bed & went to hang them out. I put the spread on first & got it all arranged & pegged & pulled out, when the whole line slumped & sagged down to the ground! So I took it off & looked & could see nothing wrong with either end & so with great trouble undid the rope from the wire & tightened it & it seemed fine, so this time I pegged out all the diapers & children’s clothes & pulled it along & the whole thing collapsed! The pulley right off the post at the other end- grrrr!
Now having got that off my chest I can regain my equanimity. It is a gorgeous sunny autumn day – the leaves on the tree at the back are just pure gold & look lovely against the sky. All the tree colours are wonderful & the leaves are just beginning to fall. It seems so odd to think that Lindy was still sitting out in her carriage this time last year & throwing out the leaves as they fell on her. Richard & she have been having a wonderful time this past week & playing together so nicely. All the apartment buildings are up now & so all the noisy machines etc. are gone & only hammering etc. so Linda plays outside most happily. They pull their little wagons around & play in the sand & even slide down the builders piles of sand and little stones on their bottoms! I took Lindy & Charlie to have their haircut last week- mine too! – just to the little barber along Beechwood. I thought I would get Charlie’s done just on top as it was getting so long & straggly, & that if Lindy saw him getting his done, she wouldn’t mind so much. However, he just howled– all the time, so after that she wouldn’t go near the man! However she says she will let me do it at home, as it is so long now & a bit straggly & she makes such a fuss over brushing. Goodness knows what kind of job Mama will make of it! Charlie looks cute- quite grown-up! He hasn’t been well all weekend- a little temp & fretty & sicked up a bit yesterday. He has just cut his 4th upper tooth, so it may be that or a little cold as he seems much better today.
Cec is working like a fiend- has been back just about every evening since Carman left & both this & last weekend back both Sat. & Sun. He is getting his big thing working which has taken him the 2 yrs. to build. I am in the middle of a long letter to you answering all the questions, but in the meanwhile would love a new housecoat – patterned so as not to show the dirt if poss! – also respectable! – for wearing downstairs if necessary! I plan to give you one for Xmas too- o.k.?! Lindy’s measurements: Present length of dresses 20”. Chest & waist 21”!! Thanks lots for letter of 28th. Will see about batteries. xxxxxx from Lindy & Charlie.
I wonder how many years before all my letters will have a different beginning from “I am so sorry, but we have had such a busy time!”. You will be wondering if our holiday wore us all out when I have been so long in writing, but the time has flown since we came home & it wasn’t until your A.M. of 31st Aug. came today that I realized it is nearly 2 weeks since I last wrote. Thank you so much for it & also for your long A.M. which was waiting when we got home – I promise to answer all the questions faithfully, but intend to write a proper letter as I can see the answers will be voluminous! Carman leaves in about a week’s time so I should be not quite so busy – I hope!
Your parcel to Charlie arrived last week & he says thank you very very much dearest Grannie! I was shattered at the size of the overalls of course! Isn’t it simply ridiculous? I did choose a stupid pattern, didn’t I? I tried the big ones on Linda & the legs are about 6” too long for her & the straps much too long also – even the bib is broad on her little chest so that the buttonholes are practically at her arms. I do think that you have made them beautifully though Mummy & they look very smart – it is only that I am sorry I sent you such a poor pattern- also, of course, Charlie being a bigger-made child he will probably fit into them better & sooner than Linda. The little cotton overalls are simply cute – they fit well, except for the straps & legs – the legs are a good 6” or 8” long for his little legs!- but I can easily turn them up until he grows. Linda was simply enchanted with her pretty petticoat & we all think it is adorable! – Clever you!! She had it on one day & I let her go downstairs in it to show Daddy & Carman & she was just wiggling her little bottom & as pleased as punch! Today I got out a cotton one to put on & she yelled with rage & demanded her pretty petticoat. She puts on her own shoes now, by the way & insists on trying to put on her own clothes! The shells & sponges were lots of fun for her – she had them in her paddling pool & she & Nancy (Douglas) played with them for ages – she likes the little basket too & altogether loved her presents. Everything now is “birthday” with her & so she tells everyone that “Grannie sent Lindy shells for a birthday”! Thank you also for my oven cloth – it is already much used!
We came home on Sat. 29th & it was a roasting hot day. We left about 2 p.m. & took Jim & Lee & Barry to their train in Pembroke & then drove on down to Ottawa & arrived here at 6:15. The children were very good, but next day Charlie wasn’t very well & sicked up a bit & had a temp of about 100. It was so hot & he stayed like that for 2 or 3 days – I called Dr. W. & he said it was just the heat. However that kept me busy- then on Thursday at 6:30 Joan & Ray Appleyard arrived with their little girl Carol from California en route to Chalk River. Did I tell you they wrote & told us they were coming to C.R.? I answered & invited them to stay on their way & when we came home there was a letter telling us when they were coming. They look just the same- except Joan 8 months pregnant & Ray a bit gray on temples! Carol is a curly headed little blonde- rather a funny little puggy face, but cute! We had 9 in the house that night! Ray went on next morning but Joan & Carol stayed till Sunday to rest a bit. The heat was terrible – 95° & over & humidity miserable – you can imagine! But thank goodness it broke on Sat. & is bright & cool now- so cool this evening we have a fire on! Charlie is cutting his 2 top teeth & is a bit nattery- also he can crawl – all over the place! He & Lindy send xxxs & hugs & lots of thanks.